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  1. Eli
    November 30, 2017

    Well, I’m not a gay man, but a bisexual woman, from Bucharest and currently living here. Last relationship has been with a woman: a couple of closer friends (meaning two) who are Romanian know about it, a few non-Romanian friends also do. My family – whom I don’t really get along with, though we are in touch- has no idea. But then again, they don’t know that much about my private life generally. People in work environments also don’t know. When I was with my ex-girlfriend I told a guy at work who had a crush on me that I was involved…with another man. I don’t like to have to lie, so I minimize contact with people who are invasive and whom I assess as being also conservative. I think my more liberal/ egalitarian views make life a bit lonely even when I’m not personally concerned- for instance, I support the rights of Roma while not being Roma…as racist comments are not uncommon, I feel separated, so to speak, in many social situations.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      December 2, 2017

      It really saddens me this is still the culture in so many areas of the world.

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  2. Rick
    October 22, 2017

    I and the man I love have been trying to be together for 7 years . We have been stopped every opportunity we have tried. Life in Romania is not friendly towards us granted but trying to get a visa for him to come to the US has not worked. The reason, he cannot prove that he will return to Romania. With all of this negative back lash we are still committed to one another.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      October 23, 2017

      I’m very sorry that has been your experience. 🙁

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    • Aaaaaa
      March 4, 2018

      I currently live in london and i have a romanian bf. It was difficult for me at first as he would also be negative of me holding his hand or me just being sweet/cheeky in public. Im reminding him that we’re in london. He would always tell me what if someone disapproves and might hurt us and he just doesnt want to put us in an unsafe situation. Nevertheless, I still get grumpy at him lol. But reading this made it all clearer. Btw, we’re still together 7 mos 🙂

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      • Talon Windwalker
        March 7, 2018

        Congrats on the 7 mos! And, yes, now you understand a bit better why he is so nervous.

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  3. david roscoe orfei
    July 28, 2017

    I have been chatting with a Romanian guy for a while and I am finally going to see him .
    I have booked a double room in a hotel (double bed) and am just wondering what kind of reaction we will get when we arrive at the hotel when they see me, somewhat older than him checking in together .
    It would not bother me in the least in the rest of Europe, but one hears stories of anti gay feeling , hope we have no problems.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      July 28, 2017

      It’s doubtful you’ll get a reaction other than possibly them clarifying if you want one or two beds. Romanians are pretty mellow when it comes to homosexuality, even if most don’t approve of it.

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  4. Dostovik Gayviskior
    February 9, 2016

    hello, I am origin not romanian and I went to romania and i am homosexual.
    I always get beat when I pass street, they laugh and throw rock, not good people
    They once catch me alone and almost beated me to close death.
    I had to leave country because of threat to my life and family, i cryed and tryed to kill myself 🙁

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    • Talon Windwalker
      February 9, 2016

      What a horrible experience!

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    • Horia Chiorean
      July 2, 2016

      There are not street gangs in Romania and the police will came fast if someone is beaten on the street. There are people here who don’nt now the truth about Romania but is common sense to understand that in order to beat you someone for beeing gay first they had to now that. You weare pink and a board with : ‘ I’m gay ? “. Or you hit on a straight guy and then he beat you , that is possible. In conclusion romanian are not very tolerable with LGBT but we are not beating people for that.

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  5. Cesar Vil
    December 29, 2014

    I’ve been “online dating” a Romanian gay guy for a little over a year now. We have never seen each other in person only telephone calls and Skype. Hoping for that to change, I will be traveling to Romania (from the U.S.) this coming year (2015) and I’m looking forward to it. It has been a very difficult year but rewarding none the less. My boyfriend has a very tragic coming out story and has been through a lot this past year. It is not easy to be gay specially coming from the Romanian countryside. Thanks for your posts and looking forward to reading more.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      January 1, 2015

      The countryside is definitely much more difficult. I hope it all works out well for you guys!

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      • Cesar Vil
        February 3, 2015

        Multumesc. I will keep you posted.

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  6. Ursula Maxwell-Lewis (@YouTravel)
    August 29, 2014

    Interesting insight. Painful, too, I think. But, times they are a changing – even in Romania

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 29, 2014

      Slowly but surely!

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  7. Neva @ Retire for the Fun of it
    August 28, 2014

    How sad and yet encouraging that this young man could explain his life to you openly. I hope families will continue to accept and embrace the realization that sons and daughters should be able to live their lives openly and not be fearful of being beaten.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 29, 2014

      Yes, I definitely hope things keep moving forward.

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  8. The Gypsynesters
    August 28, 2014

    Seems as though it is not too different from most places in the attitudes. Generally younger people are more accepting and it is less of a problem in bigger cities.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 28, 2014

      It just breaks my heart for the people who have been completely ostracized by their family, and the ones who live in fear of their family finding out.

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  9. Marilyn Jones
    August 28, 2014

    Fascinating. I am pleased it is getting easier for gay men and women in Eastern Europe.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 28, 2014

      Slowly but surely. At least in some areas. Some others aren’t so lucky.

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  10. Carole Terwilliger Meyers
    August 27, 2014

    It does sound like progress is being made for gays in Romania, though there still is a long road to trod.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 28, 2014

      A VERY long road. Some of the changes were forced on them in order to join the EU, but change is change sometimes.

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  11. Suzanne Fluhr
    August 27, 2014

    I have always assumed that Eastern Europe is less friendly to gays just because Eastern Europeans historically have a well-earned reputation for antipathy and intolerance to every minority group—Jews, Roma, people of color, immigrants—you name it. The genocide that occurred when Czechoslovakia dissolved in the 1990’s was one of the more obvious recent examples, but it has been there since forever.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      August 28, 2014

      Very true. That region is not well known for its tolerance. Although Czech is a lot better than its neighbors when it comes to that now.

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    • Adam
      June 20, 2015

      I think you mean when Yugoslavia broke up in the 1990s. I live in the now Czech Republic and there was no war/genocide during the peaceful and democratic break-up of Czechoslovakia.

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