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  1. Valen
    July 1, 2016

    I hope that you have peace in your heart about what direction to take. I know the uncertainty must be hard. I admire you for putting her first, and I don’t think you are overreacting at all. It’s been different being back in the US for me. I’m glad I’m in Hawaii with different cultures, but the prices on housing, food, health insurance have all reminded me why I left. And, yet, I want roots, to be surrounded by a bigger LGBT community etc. I guess there really is no perfect place! Sending lots of love.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      July 3, 2016

      The downsides of long-term travel. You find so many places you love, but no matter where you are there is always something pulling you elsewhere.

      I don’t know if I’ll ever be completely emotionally ready to return to the US. I guess knowing that it doesn’t have to be forever will help.

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  2. Clare
    June 9, 2016

    Come to Australia! In Sydney or Melbourne you would have no problems at all.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 10, 2016

      Not really a place I’d want to live, and we’d still have the same issues regarding name change and legal documentation.

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  3. Zascha
    June 8, 2016

    Talon, I really admire you and what you’re doing for Tigger. I know – as you do – that there will be bumps along the way, but you will get there in the end. I hope Hungary will be the right choice for the both of you 🙂

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 10, 2016

      Nothing is permanent. If we do have to return to the US, at least we always have that knowledge.

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  4. Annette
    June 7, 2016

    I have a friend who lives in Istanbul, and it would definitely not be the place for a transgender person to be safe, good call on nixing that one right away. It sounds like you have a good plan in place, and you are flexible enough to make changes as needed. Hopefully the residency will be granted and you won’t have to work on a new plan!

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 8, 2016

      Flexibility is definitely something we have in spades.

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  5. RenegadePilgrim
    June 7, 2016

    I know of an LGBT Christian group in Croatia that could be helpful if you went that route. They are in a good position to share safety concerns. They also do a lot of education and counseling.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 7, 2016

      Thanks. I’ve chatted with a couple of different LGBT groups as well as some Croatians and expats. The general consensus is safety shouldn’t be an issue.

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  6. Erik
    June 7, 2016

    Just go back in the states. In a cheap area like Tennessee or something similar and benefit of the health insurance and whatever you need from that point of view. Europe is way too complicated

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 7, 2016

      Tennessee for a trans person? You must be joking. We’ve turned in our application for residency, so we should be set for a year. Although if they reject us, we’ll have to reconsider when we’ll be doing reentry.

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  7. Erica
    June 6, 2016

    Oh, I do not envy you this ongoing hassle, but I do know that you always do what you need to do. I also feel like you’ll work this out, but I appreciate reading your thoughts about the process. It’s not just sharing, it may actually help someone else in the future. As for normalcy: what’s that??

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 7, 2016

      That’s why I put it in quotes lol. Things always work out. Just sometimes it’s quite the ride getting there.

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  8. Jennifer
    June 6, 2016

    I’m sorry to hear you’re having some difficulties getting Hungarian residency. I can commiserate. Getting my French residency visa wasn’t easy and now finding an apartment has proven even more difficult.

    I too didn’t/don’t feel ready to return to the US after 7 years living in Europe. It’s a battle, but keep at it if you feel Hungary is the right place for you and Tigger to be.

    Things will begin to fall in place. Even when it feels like everything is working against you, keep your head up and persevere on.

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    • Talon Windwalker
      June 7, 2016

      Yep, we always do. Residency wasn’t the hard part, really. It was finding a damn apartment since a lease (or ownership) is required to obtain residency. We have that settled, and our apps have been turned in. Now we wait to see what happens. The joys of expat life, right?

      I still don’t know if I’ll be ready for the US in a year. I guess we’ll just have to see what shakes up as the time draws near.

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