Comments on: Grieving from Afar

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Sun, 22 Dec 2013 08:54:28 +0000

In reply to Brianna. Thank you, and I'm sorry for your loss as well. It's very hard losing a parent.

By: Brianna

Brianna — Sun, 22 Dec 2013 04:48:31 +0000

I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. I’ve recently lost my Mom and it helps to hear how others deal with grief. Your recommendations on how to help others deal with grief are spot on.

By: Trisha Velarmino

Trisha Velarmino — Sat, 07 Dec 2013 03:14:11 +0000

Talon,

I cannot say I understand how you feel but I can imagine it. I have been away from home for a long time and before I left this year, my grandmother asked, “will you come back home when I die?” I just said, “DON’T DIE” but at the back of my head, I didn’t know what to feel. This is really brave. Thank you for sharing.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 08:45:26 +0000

In reply to Catherine Forest. Great analogy. I have used something similar when talking to groups about grief. It sure hurts like hell and can be tough to let yourself ride that wave, but it drastically reduces the time it hangs around when you just face it.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 08:44:38 +0000

In reply to Tom Bartel. Thanks, Tom. I just hope the rest of his journey goes smoothly.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 08:44:03 +0000

In reply to Arnette RTW. It most definitely is! Thanks

By: Catherine Forest

Catherine Forest — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 02:08:37 +0000

I’m so sorry for your friend, Talon. I totally second your suggestion of giving grief (and depression) your full attention for an hour or two a day and then, trying to focus on stuff that makes you feel good. Grief and depression that you continually try to turn off (because, well, there isn’t much to say about it) is like a child you do not give attention to. It pulls on your shirt, whines in your ears, kick you in the shin, until you acknowledge it and give it some dedicated space. Much love to you.

By: Tom Bartel

Tom Bartel — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 20:42:19 +0000

So sorry and moved to read this, Talon. We will mourn your loss and your friend.

By: Arnette RTW

Arnette RTW — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 16:22:47 +0000

I’m so very sorry. Thank you for sharing this. It’s not easy to speak publicly about grief and loss. There is no handbook for it or a proper way to grieve. Grief is such an intense personal journey.

Sending hugs.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:49:46 +0000

In reply to Franca. All you can do is let yourself feel what you feel and ride the wave.