Comments on: The life of gay people in Romania

By: Forever/Tattoo

Forever/Tattoo — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 20:56:21 +0000

I am a committed gay novel and I will write you a few words about this life in Romania
In Romania gay people will never be accepted because of the religion that is very strong there.Do not forget that Romania is the only country in Eastern Europe that has the most church in the world 19 Years I ran away from my country after I recognized in front of the family what I feel, what I live and what I am.Disastatic result,renegad,dead to them before the time I took my gay life and went out into the world without looking back.England is my home and I am proud of it.

By: anon

anon — Tue, 20 Nov 2018 03:24:36 +0000

In reply to Talon Windwalker. That sounds rough. I'm glad things got better for you in the end.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Mon, 19 Nov 2018 03:24:07 +0000

In reply to anon. I went through that as well. Said I was bi because if I still liked girls then at least some people would think I was kind of normal. A church is why I went back into the closet in my 20s. I unfortunately married a woman and about 6 years later came back out of the closet (left the church a year or two before that). It is very hard, and where you are in such an unsupportive environment it's even tougher. I'm so very sorry.

By: anon

anon — Sun, 18 Nov 2018 04:45:28 +0000

I came here from the other blog post about Romania. I’m afraid to come out to anyone and I’ve never even seen another gay person ever, it probably doesn’t help that I’ve mostly lived in a small town with nothing but old people. It’s a pretty lonely feeling. I have finally accepted myself as a gay man but it’s still tough to deal with, I need to take baby steps I guess. I’m 20 now and I only accepted I was gay at this age, for a few years before this I was doing everything I could to avoid even thinking about it as being a possibility, even if I knew I was gay deep down inside, I think? I was mostly trying to dismiss the idea of being gay by convincing myself:”I’m totally bi or whatever, that way I can be with woman and be straight and normal”, sigh, even if I enjoyed gay drawn porn/art since I was 18. I was trying to toss away the gay, as dumb as it might sound.

I’m not really religious or anything, but since I was a child the idea that sinning would send you to burn in hell in horribly agony was always around. It wasn’t pleasant and definitely screwed with me, it gave me an extra hard time to accept my sexuality. This religious crap is deeply embedded in the school system, sadly.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Thu, 08 Mar 2018 04:23:24 +0000

In reply to Aaaaaa. Congrats on the 7 mos! And, yes, now you understand a bit better why he is so nervous.

By: Aaaaaa

Aaaaaa — Mon, 05 Mar 2018 00:09:23 +0000

In reply to Rick. I currently live in london and i have a romanian bf. It was difficult for me at first as he would also be negative of me holding his hand or me just being sweet/cheeky in public. Im reminding him that we’re in london. He would always tell me what if someone disapproves and might hurt us and he just doesnt want to put us in an unsafe situation. Nevertheless, I still get grumpy at him lol. But reading this made it all clearer. Btw, we’re still together 7 mos :)

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Sat, 02 Dec 2017 16:58:16 +0000

In reply to Eli. It really saddens me this is still the culture in so many areas of the world.

By: Eli

Eli — Thu, 30 Nov 2017 10:58:35 +0000

Well, I’m not a gay man, but a bisexual woman, from Bucharest and currently living here. Last relationship has been with a woman: a couple of closer friends (meaning two) who are Romanian know about it, a few non-Romanian friends also do. My family – whom I don’t really get along with, though we are in touch- has no idea. But then again, they don’t know that much about my private life generally. People in work environments also don’t know. When I was with my ex-girlfriend I told a guy at work who had a crush on me that I was involved…with another man. I don’t like to have to lie, so I minimize contact with people who are invasive and whom I assess as being also conservative. I think my more liberal/ egalitarian views make life a bit lonely even when I’m not personally concerned- for instance, I support the rights of Roma while not being Roma…as racist comments are not uncommon, I feel separated, so to speak, in many social situations.

By: Talon Windwalker

Talon Windwalker — Tue, 24 Oct 2017 03:22:03 +0000

In reply to Rick. I'm very sorry that has been your experience. :(

By: Rick

Rick — Sun, 22 Oct 2017 17:37:46 +0000

I and the man I love have been trying to be together for 7 years . We have been stopped every opportunity we have tried. Life in Romania is not friendly towards us granted but trying to get a visa for him to come to the US has not worked. The reason, he cannot prove that he will return to Romania. With all of this negative back lash we are still committed to one another.