While it is not the same as preparing to be a mother, becoming a father can be altogether exciting and nerve-wracking. Since pregnancy biologically enables the woman to transition to motherhood physically, the father comes to understand fatherhood later. It is only natural. A common adage is that the woman becomes a mother when she gets pregnant and a man becomes a father when he sees his child.
Still there are things you can do to prepare for becoming a dad. With so many methods to learn about what’s going to happen when the baby is born and what you should do to get ahead of it. If you’re interested and put in the work, you will be able to make the transition into fatherhood seamless.
It’s a cliché, they want you to read baby books. But one of the best things you can do is read literature on parenting and fatherhood in specific. It isn’t necessarily about cracking open a book, but if you are doing the hard work you will be able to read what you need to know on the internet. Whenever you are curious about something, you should look it up in medical journals, parenting forums, or other helpful websites. It’s all about caring. When you do, you will learn what you need to learn about the pregnancy, infancy of the child, and fatherhood in general.
Learn about the Pregnancy
A great way to get started is to understand the pregnancy. Look at what women need to do to stay healthy. Go to the doctors’ appointments with your wife. Plan the labor with her and ask her questions. If you’re wondering how to prepare for being a father, ask your dad or other fathers. You can also ask the mother’s doctor questions. Be there when the ultrasound determines what sex the baby is. When you find out these things together, it changes the whole dynamic of the pregnancy.
Design the Nursery Ahead of Time
Fathers don’t have the physical change of pregnancy, but they can prepare for fatherhood by doing things that represent the coming of the baby. One great example of this is to design the baby’s nursery. Some people like to do gender reveal parties where they can tell their family and friends about the sex of the baby and receive gendered gifts. If you’re into that sort of thing, check out some gender reveal ideas. Once you have decided if you are going to gender the baby’s nursery, you can begin designing, buying necessary products, and painting or putting up wallpaper. As you design and build this nursery, you will have your infant in mind.
Finally preparing to be a father takes a lot of introspection. Think about your dad. What did he do right and what did he do wrong? If he was checked out, contemplate how you will do things differently. If he was angry and you’re afraid of being the same way, get a handle on your emotions in therapy or anger management. You are going to father a human being, it’s only natural to want their lives to be better than yours. Think about privilege and what both your child and your partner need to be a healthy, happy family. When you care that much to do the hard work, it will show and everyone will be better off for it.
Being a parent is never easy. The identity comes later with fathers. It is quite important to get ahead of it by putting in the time and effort to learn about the pregnancy as well as what you should do to prepare both mentally and physically. You don’t want fatherhood to be a surprise.
It will be overwhelming and scary. It will be frustrating. Instead learn everything you can and think a lot about how you can make your child’s life better. If you care for your kid and its mother in tandem, you will be able to take part in a happy, healthy family. It’s what life is all about. So if you’re having a child, it’s time to start the work of fatherhood.