Comments on: Living in Darkness with PMDD http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/ Giving My Child the World. Inspiring Others. Thu, 07 Oct 2021 23:28:04 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.10 By: Jason http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-584780 Thu, 07 Oct 2021 23:28:04 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-584780 In reply to Not A Chance.

Hi. My wife and i have been dealing with PMDD for the 15 years that we have been together and the really bad news is that it seems to get worse with age.

We found that low dose birth control REWLLY helps but she would often argue that it didn’t because no matter what she feels bad every month. Keep a diary of symptoms and note levels from 0-10. This way she can (a) be reminded that her feelings are being artificially inflated by her condition (b) remind her (and you ) that this isn’t her fault (c) it’s going to end once her period starts.

Hang in there and keep reminding yourself and her that she doesn’t really mean the horrendous things she says

]]> By: Scott http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-580448 Wed, 24 Feb 2021 22:22:32 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-580448 In reply to Not A Chance.

Not a chance- where were you in forming your family when you found out about this disorder? Have supplements or other things helped?

]]> By: scott http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-580447 Wed, 24 Feb 2021 22:19:58 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-580447 In reply to Tom.

Tom, so sorry to hear you’re feeling like that. You’re not alone in your suffering. Looking back over my own history with my wife, I see all of the times I’ve believed I was somehow at fault for causing the abuse when in reality it was a disorder and I’ve been with two separate people all along. I don’t know the path out of this terrible disorder for partners or sufferers but hope your wife can at least recognize that what she has is wrong. Please save yourself for your son before you make a mistake that can’t be taken back.

]]> By: Tom http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-576261 Sun, 05 Jul 2020 12:53:18 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-576261 In reply to Not A Chance.

Not much help for guys like us. My wife told me she has this and is right. She refuses to do anything about it and says that if our son and I would be better people she could manage her symptoms better. It’s our fault she gets out of control. My son is grown now so I may just help her out and put the shotgun under my chin because I am so low from the constant berating and verbal assaults I want to die.

]]> By: Talon Windwalker http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-570458 Mon, 21 Oct 2019 17:19:31 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-570458 In reply to Jack.

Has she been able to try meds to see if they help?

]]> By: Jack http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-570452 Mon, 21 Oct 2019 10:34:29 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-570452 In reply to Not A Chance.

reading this comment really got to me. I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now and i am happy to say i have never loved anyone the way i love this girl.once she told me about PMDD I even to this day try my hardest to read up as much as I possibly can, (currently at work been reading since 8:30am now 11:30am) The feelings that i feel once this time on the month comes is completely and utterly heart breaking, all you want is a happy life with your partner but never knowing when you wake up in the morning that today might be the last day that you ever see this person, breaks my heart. i wish to learn as much as i can to help and support my partner and if anyone has any recommendations that would be amazing

]]> By: Not A Chance http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-569006 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 20:02:24 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-569006 When my wife and I first got together she had symptoms of this but I hadn’t heard of it at all and always viewed her as having a Jekyll & Hyde personality (it makes me feel better that as i read people challenges with this they use the same term). We didn’t get together in the best way but she is the most amazing person and I can’t imagine not having her in my life. Sadly her symptoms have been increasing everytime and for a while she realised it was an issue, talked to a doc, got on birth control, discussed (briefly) having a hysterctomy (we have a daughter together, and three in total). When she was taking that life was so much better, then monthly fights and accusations were so much less and we just got to live our lives. After a year or so she decided that the birth control was not helping her any, despite my disagreement, and stopped taking them. Ever since, every month gets worse and worse and not only do I feel helpless to stop her but I am always the brunt of her rage. I’m not the greatest guy in the world but i love her dearly and every month I get accused of cheating, threats of divorce and worse. I don’t see friends (most of them are now gone), I don’t participate in work functions, because if she can’t have her eyes on me I’m busy having an affair. If i drive a different route I get grilled about it. The paranoia is out of control and as terrible as it sounds, I would love to be living with a woman who has many of the challenges i’ve read about because then I might be able to help her, everything now is focused on me. Nothing I do is the right thing, i’m always lying, hiding something, making her crazy. I hate to admit it but I feel that we are almost to a breaking point. If she doesn’t leave me because of one of her rages I think I may have to just for my own sanity. Although the thought of trying to share custody with someone in that unfortunate state of mind is terrifying as well, and I just want us to be happy together. She’s my favourite person in the world and hates me 2-3 weeks every month.

]]> By: Talon Windwalker http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-534151 Wed, 21 Nov 2018 03:24:58 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-534151 In reply to lexy.

I’m glad you at least finally have an answer!

]]> By: lexy http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-534102 Tue, 20 Nov 2018 17:42:07 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-534102 Thank you so much for all of your helpful posts. It is beyond relieving knowing I am not alone in this. The rage, lack of self confidence, deep sorrow and shame and guilt has completely rocked my life for as long as I can remember. I was recently diagnosed with pmdd. For the past ten years, I was self medicating through the pain with pills and alcohol, which only made things worse. I wish I would have had the education and these blogs 10 years ago! It would have saved so many missed opportunities, and ruined relationships

]]> By: Talon Windwalker http://1dad1kid.com/living-in-darkness-with-pmdd/#comment-518845 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 02:41:19 +0000 http://1dad1kid.com/?p=3924#comment-518845 In reply to Whitney J.

I sure hope it does some good for you!

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