Looks like you’re taking a wild jump there. We work together as a team and have done so with this decision as well. If he had strong feelings against the move, I would’ve responded differently. We are going to Budapest with the intent on living there. So he gets to stop traveling as he wishes, and I get what I need as well. Win-win.

Furthermore, being in a place where both he AND his parent are happy and comfortable, directly preserves his best interests. Thanks for your concern, though.

It seems clear Tigger took the role of parent here to make you happy, despite his reservations, desire to stop traveling as you’ve mentioned in previous posts, that he’s tired of moving and his anxiety attacks.

It sounds like Tigger has a few years left before he’s legally an adult and can make his own decision. It seems like it would have been advantageous if he could have settled into a place he was comfortable with and enjoy it until then.

Definitely agree. Every place has its thorns. You just have to decide if you can live with that particular set or not. Thankfully, I HAVE seen many Hungarians speak up and against the government’s handling of topics like immigration and the refugee crisis. I think the younger generation is going to effect a lot of change in their country. And hopefully with Budapest becoming more and more of an international city that will help a lot.

Thanks for the good luck wish. I’m going to need it!

Regarding Hungarian tolerance (or rather the lack thereof) that made you leave, this has made me really uncomfortable and sad with many of my relatives for years. (I have a few theories as to why this is, but a lot of it has to do with Hungarians being drama queens and a national identity shaped in many ways in recent decades by homogeneity.) I’ve heard a lot of *really* upsetting things, to put it mildly, where my objections get brushed off because I’m “a sensitive American.” But ultimately living abroad for some years has taught me you cannot unfortunately pick and choose your ideal country, and you can love people and places with flaws. Plus, frankly, if everyone gave up on Hungary and didn’t go there to speak up about what’s wrong it would *never* get better!

Hope that helps. And good luck learning magyar. 😉

Wish I had someone to delegate to! lol

It is really weird having a base at first. Feels weird to be completely unpacked as well. But it IS nice. It’s a tough decision, esp when you’ve been all over the world and have stayed in so many wonderful places.

I also decided I’d like to stay in Mexico for a while last July and found this job. But I am still looking for that solid base, especially now that I know what it feels like to have one.

It’s such a strange feeling going from traveling place to place to suddenly having a base.

I hope Budapest welcomes you two with open arms.

Thanks!

A fun journey for sure!